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Here are 10 types of women a Christian man should never marry

 

Often in the quest towards marriage and finding “the one,” something happens. It’s easy to overlook things that may not seem that big of a deal while dating, but these things could be destructive patterns once married.

But love doesn’t have to be blind. There’s no reason to settle for unhealthy or harmful relationships, simply to pursue being married.

We all have sin issues that we deal with on a daily basis. We’ve all made mistakes that we often wish we could do-over. We all need the grace and freedom that only Christ Himself can offer. But our marriages are healthier when we recognise red flags in our dating relationships, instead of choosing not to see problems at all.

God cares about the decisions we make. He cares about who we marry. And we can trust He will give guidance, and help us see some red flags to be aware of along the way.

10 Women Christian Men Should Never Marry:

1. The Unbeliever – Be careful not to settle for less than what God would want for the spiritual health and care of your marriage. Marriage can be tough enough at times, add to that the pressure of opposing spiritual views, and you may be in big trouble when the normal stressors of life occur. If you hold vastly different beliefs now, don’t falsely assume you’ll get her to “turn around,” or change her ways later. It may happen, but it may not.

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Cor. 6:14

2. The Abuser – Many times “abusers” are assumed to be men, but women struggle with this same trap too, and the man in her life may feel like it’s difficult to talk about the problem or find help. Men can often become the invisible victims of relationship abuse and find themselves dealing with deep levels of shame, guilt, and inadequacy.

Ps. 11:5 says, “The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked and those who love violence, he hates.” This verse reminds us of how God feels about the heart which instigates violence. No one deserves to be abused. Ever. Move quickly away from the one who brings you physical, verbal, or deep emotional harm. You are not their saving grace. That is God’s work. Marriage must be built on deep love and respect, and abuse of any type has no place there.

3. The Controller, Manipulator – This person’s subtle, dangerous behavior can indicate big trouble ahead. What might be disguised as “I just care about you,” can really be a need for constant control or a heart of jealousy. She may dominate and strive to make decisions for you, especially in regards to whom you spend your time with. She might check up on you frequently, keep close tabs, or falsely accuse you of cheating on her. The one driven by control needs will have continual issues with whether she can “trust you.” Often, under her grasp, you may start to feel like you can hardly breathe. It’s suffocating. It’s supposed to be, that’s how you’re held tightly.

James 3:16 says, “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.” And that is no place to start a marriage.

4. The Angry, Contentious Woman – If your partner can’t control her temper before you’re married, she most certainly won’t after you’re married. In most cases, her behavior will worsen. No matter what our personality type, it still doesn’t give us room to plow over anyone in our pathway with cruel words and rants. Take time to see how she responds in different scenarios, especially when under pressure.

Proverbs 25:24, “It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” This is more than, “I’m just having a bad day.” An angry, quarrelsome disposition has a pattern of negativity, harsh words, and flaring tempers. The key is – does she realize it’s an area of weakness that she desires for God to change? If the answer is “no,” steer clear.

5. The Seducer – Behaviors established before marriage are not going to magically go away once you say, “I do.” S3@.x:’ual sin can be a deep trap of the enemy and once ensnared in these destructive patterns, they are difficult to break. Yet the pain or mistakes of the past should hold no control over our present and future. God redeems, sets free, and desires to make us new.

Make the choice together to live by His standards in your relationship. The lies of the world say that S3@.x:’ before marriage is normal, no big deal. Yet it’s a huge deal. Don’t fall for the enemy’s lie. The heart of Christ seeks the best for the one they love, desiring to build up, protect, and encourage healthy, safe patterns.

In the story of Joseph in Genesis 39, we see Potiphar’s wife pursuing him with S3@.x:’ual advances day after day. It was relentless. But he did not fall. The Bible says, “he fled.” Wise man.

6. The Deceiver, Liar – Every marriage must be built on trust. Without this as a firm foundation, you’re in for trouble from the beginning. So what about those “little white lies” you started noticing along the way? In reality, there’s no such thing as little white lies. Any lie is meant to hide, deceive, or manipulate truth. There is no room for dishonesty in a healthy, loving relationship. It’s a dangerous trap and you will always be left wondering what she’s hiding.

In Judges 16, we read the story of Delilah, who plotted and tricked the strong man Samson, ultimately deceiving him. He was foolishly lured by her entices and fell into deep destruction because of it. Left to our own thoughts, we, like Samson, may miss the signal that there’s trouble ahead.

7. The Addict – This person needs freedom that can only come by admitting there’s a problem, seeking professional help and leaning on the strength that God can bring. Addiction to alcohol, drugs, P@.rnography, or destructive habits will lead to deep troubles ahead. And though your relationship may seem to challenge her in the right direction, don’t be fooled that she’ll so quickly “give it all up for you,” without the aid and accountability of professional help.

You are not the one to set her free and your role is not to try to change their heart. Only God can do that. 1 Cor. 6:12 says, “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything.”

8. The Narcissist, Diva – No matter how beautiful, talented, and charming she may seem, marriage is built on the word “together.” If the relationship before marriage seems to constantly be all about her, you may be in for some struggle ahead. The “Diva” generally refers to one who demands the center of attention and focus at the expense of others’ feelings. Humility, compassion, love, and respect are much more admirable characteristics than simply the externals. “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” Prov. 31:30.

9. The Gold Digger/Big Spender – Secretive spending habits? More interested in your bank account or what you can buy her, than in you? Once married, these patterns can worsen when the stressors of family life and responsibilities mount high. Money problems and financial struggles are one of the main causes of divorce. Look for the red flags and decide up front if the two of you can agree on the big issues. “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs” 1 Tim. 6:10.

10. The One Who Won’t Leave the Nest – It’s difficult to live a future of becoming one flesh when either partner is still joined too tightly to their parents. Nothing wrong with having close, healthy relationships with our parents throughout life, until you allow it to consume your decision making or control your marriage. Parents are meant to offer protection to children, even adult children. But upon marriage, the spouse should be given that primary place of leadership and care, under God’s authority. Talk about healthy boundaries before you marry, don’t dismiss it as “no big deal.” You may find out later how big a deal it was. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” Gen. 2:24

Another truth – The healthiest marriages are not made up of two seemingly “perfect” people, but two forgiven people who have the capacity, by the grace of God, to keep offering forgiveness to one another.

God’s Word gives guidance for marriage and offers plenty of examples for wise living. It really comes down to a choice. What do we believe about what He says, and will we look to Him for wisdom in relationships and in how we live our lives?

There’s a battle over marriages today, and the enemy would love nothing more than to destroy yours before it’s hardly even begun or to entice you into a harmful one. Don’t let Him win. Search God’s Word for what He has to say. His are the words that matter most.

Source: Naijaloaded

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“Couples who sleep naked have a happier relationship” – Survey

A new survey has revealed that couples who sleep naked have a happier relationship.

The study from Cotton USA asked couples what they slept in at bedtime and then asked them to rate how happy they were in their relationship.

According to the results, 57 percent of those who slept in the nude said they felt happy, compared to 48 percent of pyjamas wearers, 43 percent of nightie wearers and a mere 38 percent of people who wore pants, bum shorts, etc.

Stephanie Thiers-Ratcliffe of Cotton USA said that one of the leading factors for this was that the nakedness encouraged intimacy and openness, thanks to the skin-on-skin contact and the feeling of soft bedding.

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Guys! Ths is what happens to the pen*s as you get older, according to science

Our bodies change with age, but how about the most private parts? What happens to Pen.!s when it ages? Let’s get some clear answers.

So, guys, what can you expect to happen to your Pen.!s when you grow older? These clues will prepare you for the inevitable changes.

How Pen.!s changes with age?

Length

When most men are born, their Pen.!ses reach only 4 cm in length! The average size ranges between 16 and 23 cm. Does it decrease in size, when you grow old? Not exactly, but things change. For instance, if you gain much weight, your Pen.!s looks shorter. The fat is located in the lower part of your belly and covers up part of the Pen.!s shaft. However, in your 60s or 70s the Pen.!s can actually a bit shrink in size by some 2-3 cm.

Testicle size

After 40 they decrease by 1 third of their size. Healthy younger men have them around 3 cm in size, while the older guys may have only 2 cm size balls.

Working condition

The performance changes, too. When you turn 40, your S3@.x:’ual activity and the amount of male hormones in the body decreases. In the youth a healthy man may have S3@.x:’ several times a day, in the later age erectile dysfunction may change things for worse. The muscles weaken and the vessels get clogged. It also contributes to weaker erection. So, having S3@.x:’ few times a week is great, when you age.

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Enjoyment

It greatly depends on the sensitivity of your male organ. Unfortunately with age it decreases a bit, but it’s good for those guys, who come too fast. Now they have more chances to gain control and boost the duration of their performance in bed.

Looks

You start losing your head hair with the age, but that’s not it. Men also lose their pubic hair and their Pen.!ses change the color a bit.

Time spares no one, so enjoy your S3@.x:’ life in the  young age, but do not worry, over 80 percent of men maintain their male organs in great working condition even being seniors.

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Guys beware! It is dangerous to have s*x in these 4 situations

Is S3@.x:’ always good? There are times when you should stay away from it, and every man should know the reasons not to get busy! This list may surprise you.

List of 4 reasons why not to have S3@.x:’:

Besides the obvious thing – not being the husband of the lady you plan to enjoy, there are other reasons to keep away from intimacy. Here they are.

1. At your bachelor’s party

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You are a groom and your friends bring in some girls to have fun at your last bachelor’s night out. It’s the worst possible idea to get busy with a stripper or some strange girl. You have picked that woman to be your wife for a reason. Keep it in mind, when other ladies offer fun to you. You do not want to start your married life with cheating. What you sow, you will reap!

2. Alcohol

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Either you or she or both of you are drunk. How much is too much? 3 to 5 drinks can make you less wise in your decisions and less cautious. Consuming alcohol, you become more open for risky things, such as unprotected S3@.x:’. And you put yourself and the other person in danger of getting SDTs (HIV and other love bugs) or impregnating the woman.

Such a situation is highly undesirable. So, if you drink too much, make a rule to abstain from S3@.x:’ with a new girlfriend.

3. At her parents’ house

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That’s not the best location for the love games. They may return home unexpectedly. Or if they are home, they may enter her room any time and catch you at it. It’s a very embarrassing situation.

4. When you wish to marry her

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She is a V!rg!n, and you have made up your mind to marry her. But you want her so and think: what if we do it now? Why wait for the wedding night? Stop! You are going to ruin it all. Waiting does not kill anyone. Just set the date and you won’t regret it. As waiting double the pleasure on the first night!

These reasons should stop you and make you think. S3@.x:’ is not always a good idea, and it can be dangerous and has the power to ruin your life when done at the wrong time and with the wrong person.

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