Kindly read and offer your best advice:
My boyfriend of 5 months and I have a great relationship and a very open minded se x life. If one of us wants to try anything at all, we clearly communicate it, try it, and then reflect on whether we liked it or not. He was really curious about anal and I was 80% sure I wouldn’t like it but I tried anyway because you never know until you try.
I was right in the assumption of me not liking it. Afterward I said I didn’t like it and he said that was okay and we didn’t have to do it again.
Personally I’m a people pleaser and hate saying no to people, especially people I’m close to. I agreed and so we did it again. I asked him a few times to slow down because it hurt but he didn’t because he said it doesn’t feel good if he doesn’t go fast. I asked if that could be the last time and he said it could be.
That repeated again and I hate telling him no so I tried to put my foot down and say it would be THE LAST TIME we did anal. I ended up crying because it hurt so bad and he stopped and said “okay were never doing this again”. I asked why and he said “because you cried”. I apologized for crying and he said it was fine but he just wanted to go to sleep. He wouldn’t cuddle with me like he usually does but I chalked it up to him being too tired.
About a week later he tried to convince me to do anal again and I finally said no. I explained that I didn’t like it and I was too lenient about it before but I really wanted to stop. Later on that day I tried to cuddle with him while we were watching tv and he basically mocked what I said to him earlier about why I didn’t want to do anal. I considered telling him he could just so he would stop ignoring me but I stood my ground.
Weeks went by without much issue besides him asking to do it again here and there, and me politely declining. Then there was a fight about it. He asked why I wouldn’t do anal “even though he does so much for me” (which I instantly thought back to when I just wanted to cuddle and he wouldn’t because he was mad I didn’t want a dick in my ass).
It ended up erupting into him telling me that I’m not a good girlfriend because I’m depriving him of this and if I keep doing it he might start turning to other places to get what he wants. He stormed off and I couldn’t help but feel like a disappointment. I cried and he came back and apologized about an hour later.
He stopped asking for about a month but he’s starting to ask again. I really really don’t want to do it but I also don’t want him to keep being mad at me for not wanting to. Should I do it? Should I keep standing my ground?
I am 18 years old, he is 19.
DJ Cuppy issues a message to all her exes
Nigerian DJ and Billionaire Businessman, Otedola’s daughter, DJ Cuppy has taken to Instagram to share a message to her exes, a move many have interpreted as ‘we’re never getting back together’.
DJ Cuppy who held a glass of champagne in the photo she shared, wrote;
“Dear Exes, You Used To Be My Cup Of Tea… But I Drink Champagne Now! #CuppyOnAMission”
“How my husband raped my best friend” – Woman tells shocking story
An angry woman has told the shocking story of how her husband was found out to have r*ped her own best friend in his home.
The woman, identified as Rukayat, told the story in a letter she sent to Vanguard.
Below is how she told the story:
“I was fresh out of the university when I found myself pregnant at age 22. I didn’t want to get married, but my boyfriend then was 30 years old and persuaded me we should get married for the child’s sake.
“The marriage turned out to be a nightmare as he became controlling and violent. I endured his abuse for 15 years and with three children, I finally found the courage to leave him – thanks to my best friend’s encouragement.
“I was to finally go to the house to collect the rest of my things and my friend agreed to go with me for moral support. Unfortunately, she arrived before I got there. My husband was in, in spite of his telling me he wouldn’t be around.
“He invited my friend in to wait for me and attacked her almost immediately, raping her in the process. When I eventually turned up, we both went to the police and got him arrested. Later, relatives and friends convinced us to drop the charges because of the children.
“My friend never spoke to me again and as soon as she could, she got transferred to another state. If I’d left my ex sooner, my friend might never have gone through the nasty experience of being violated. I blame myself for the trauma she went through.”
“I’m sorry for what happened to your best friend and it is sad you were unable to be reconciled before she relocated.
“Please know that what happened to her was not your doing. You are a victim just as she was and you need support in realising this.
“You did the best you could by reporting the incident. You’ve lost your best friend as well as your marriage.
“You need counselling to get over your losses and make the most of your life as the single parent you now are.”
“I’m having s*x with my mother-in-law and it’s amazing” – Man confesses
I’m having an incredible and explosive s*xual affair with my mum-in-law, and the s*x is so amazing and I can’t stop…man shares the story online.
A young man has written to a popular s*x and relationship therapist, Deidre, who is also a columnist for The Sun UK newspaper about his addiction to s*xual intercourse with his mother-in-law after an explosive bonking one afternoon which got him hooked to her honey pot.
Below is his story;
I’m having a secret affair with my mother-in-law. She is almost twice my age and we have fabulous s*x.
I got married three years ago. I’m 26 and my wife is a gorgeous Italian girl. She’s 25. When I first went to her house I couldn’t believe her mum’s age. She is 44.
My then wife-to-be told me, proudly, that all her boyfriends had fancied her mum. It seemed a strange thing to say.
That’s the odd thing about marrying someone from another culture — there’s so much that’s different and strange that I didn’t know what to believe. Her mum owns a restaurant.
It’s a small, classy place and my mother-in-law took it on when my wife’s dad passed away. She’s a very smart woman who knows how to run a good business and still have time off to have fun.
My wife covers for her in the restaurant alternate weekends and that’s when her mother is free to see me.
The first time it happened she came to our house where I was alone with our two-year-old son. She said she was checking that I was behaving myself while my wife was away.
I poured her a drink and she pulled up her skirt while she sat next to me. I caught sight of stockings, all lacy and black. That’s something my wife knows I just can’t resist.
We had a couple more drinks then I couldn’t hold back anymore. We had s*x on the sofa while my son slept upstairs.
This is now quite a regular thing. We’ve progressed from suspenders and stockings to bondage and real kinky stuff like I’ve only ever dreamed of before.
I’ve never had this kind of s*x with anyone else and I know I won’t get it again. The s*x is up there in a league of its own but then so is the guilt.
I know this must stop but my willpower is weak.
Below is the reply he got from the relationship expert;
Are you asking for advice or boasting about what you have been up to?
You know what to do.
You must tell your mother-in-law that it’s all been amazing but you must stop now or your son and your wife, the two people you should love the most, will get desperately hurt.
Take control of your life and please don’t let your lust get the better of you.
Maybe you’re fooling yourself that your wife wouldn’t mind.
I bet that she would.
How is your s*x life together?
Show her what you like but also focus on her.
Let go of other distractions and start giving your marriage the attention and love it deserves.
My e-leaflet How To Thrill a Woman in Bed can help.