IT’s often said that a stranger is just a friend you do not know. I used to believe these words until a stranger promising to be a friend brought pain and humiliation into my life. I have always been fascinated by fashion because I was raised by my aunt who is a fashion designer. I spent most of my life being a model. As a result, I missed out on having normal childhood experiences.
When I was in Grade 9, my aunt bought me a smart phone. Mxit was popular then, so I started chatting to a stranger called Obakeng. He lived far from me but he was so cute. I became a loner because I was always glued to my phone, chatting to him. After three years of chatting over the phone, Obakeng and I finally decided to meet.
He was the perfect guy and everything that I’ve always dreamt of. We became the best of friends, even though I was secretly in love with him. We met for the first time in 2014 and enjoyed each other’s company. We made plans to meet at least twice a month. We met twice after that and on the second meeting, we decided that the next time we meet, we should spend a weekend together. That weekend came and it was Obakeng’s birthday.
We had a party and got drunk to a point where we ended up in the same bed. After that encounter, things went back to normal. My world fell apart when one morning Obakeng accidentally sent me a message meant for his friends. He was sending them pictures of me n_aked and all the guys made fun of me.
When I confronted him, he said he was doing it just for fun. I felt so dirty and humiliated. I was hurt to a point that I almost committed suicide. Weeks passed and I was still feeling worthless. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror. One day, something in me changed. I plucked up the courage to look in the mirror and saw the opposite of everything I felt.
I saw a spark of hope in my eyes. I told myself that I was better than that and that I would not allow the situation to destroy me. Now I know that I’m intelligent and beautiful. I won’t kill myself over what happened. This was a painful lesson to learn but life goes on. I now know that I have the courage to face tough moments. I know I can face anything that comes my way.